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11月23日 HAPPY THANKSGIVING!HAPPY THANKSGIVING
TO
EVERYONE
AND
A SPECIAL THANKS
TO ALL THE MILITARY MEMBERS
AT HOME AND OVERSEAS
GOD BLESS 11月13日 This is Dedicated to My First Ex-husbandI met my first husband when I was only 19 years old. He was 2 years older, just out of the Army, and to me the most handsome man I'd ever met. I was living in the back-hills of Pennsylvania and he was from just across the New York State border. Those were some great fun times, the world was less complicated then. I didn't want to marry you, that wasn't in my game plan, but you wouldn't take no for an answer and, thus, I made the first of several stupid mistakes.
By the time the honeymoon was over (so to speak), we had two daughters to raise and you had re-joined the Air Force. Back then we moved every year, you sometimes were deployed on your own, I tried to juggle my career with your career and raise my daugters alone. By the time I saw that things just weren't going to work, life with you had become a danger to us. Your drinking problem ended your military career and our life together.
The court ordered child support came regularly while you went through alcohol rehab at Wright-Patterson AFB, but as soon as you were out of the military, that support stopped. I put up with all I was going to during our marrage, when the divorce was final I wanted no more communication with you and to this day, I have never called you or tried to locate you.
So, now here it is 28 years later and the court is finally making you pay $100 a month of the over $50,000 in back child support you owe. You'll be dead before you ever even get close to paying me all that you owe me. Yet you managed to re-marry and raise another daughter during this period that you lied to the court and swore that you didn't have a job. You truly are the epitome of a "Dead Beat Dad."
So, why am I blogging this to you? Just to let you know that I and your two daughters did just fine without you. Life wasn't always easy, but I didn't have to hear your drunken diatrab, feel your fists in my face anymore, nor put up with the police bringing you home in the middle of the night because you'd gone to the wrong house and started a fight with people you didn't even know. I've never contacted you, nor will I ever contact you, and when you die, you'll have to answer for the wrongs that you perpetrated against us.
My experience has left a bitter taste in my mouth for women who divorce their spouses, for whatever reason, and then can't move on with their lives. Moving on with your life means that you drop the past, meet someone new, and form new relationships and a new way of life (hopefully better than the last). Women who, even though their ex-husbands pay their child support regularly, make the guy's life a living hell, turn their kids against him, and can't keep their noses out of their husband's new life. You should just thank God you weren't married to the drunken, Dead Beat Dad. Dedication to my cousin Maggie in MinnasotaI'd like to dedicate this blog to my cousin Maggie in Minnasota. When we were growing up, I thought of you like my sister. We were only a year apart in age and your failing a grade in school put us in the same grade, though not in the same classes. We were always trying to hold each other up through thick and thin. You were always there when I needed someone. But, somewhere we lost our youthful friendship and you went your way (the path of serving your God) and I went mine (not always the correct path but one I can live with). We always stayed in contact but our friendship dwindled to not.
You pursued your career and I married and had two daughters. I never understood my first husband's lack of love for his oldest daughter, until years later while at an Air Force Base in Montgomery, Alabama.
I received a phone call from a gentleman I had dated before my first marriage. He was seeing a psychiatrist for post-traumatic stress syndrome and this psychiatrist had suggested he clear his conscious of all his past sins. And, what sin would he be calling me about? Well, Maggie, it seems that when my first daughter was born, for some damn reason you called him and told him it was his kid.
Now, considering that I hadn't even seen this guy for almost 2 years when I married my first husband and considering that it only takes 9 months to delivery a child--and I'm not an elephant or something--you and this guy are up a tree. But, he of course, had called my husband, back when my daughter was born, and told my husband that our daughter wasn't my husband's child, so now I see why my daughter was treated badly by her own father.
So, my dear cousin, Maggie, I hope the hell that you are happy with yourself. Now, that thirty-some odd years have passed, and you have three children of your own, how would you have liked me doing the same to you? You, and your holier than thou attitude, are going to have a lot to answer for when you pass to the other side. Try to justify your actions to your judgement panel, because you'll never be able to justify it to me, or my daughter for that matter.
11月9日 Thanks For VotingI want to thank all the American Citizens and the illegals who got out there and voted. I'm not in favor of the Republicans or the Democrats--I'm in favor of Americans voting their choice. Hopefully we will all work together to bring about much needed changes and get this country back on track.
Here in New Mexico, Governor Richardson won by a landslide over his opponent, but then he didn't have much of an opponent. Now, in January he'll be announcing he is a candidate for US President and we won't see much of him through next November--which is good. The Congressmen seat is still up in the air--Heather Wilson and Patricia Madrid. This surprised me as Madrid did really bad in the TV debates. She was like a deer in the headlights. I think that the Hispanic vote (legal and illegal) helped Madrid.
I'm also glad to see Donald Rumsfeld step down. I think that it should have been done long ago. 11月4日 Here's Another "I Told You So"So someone finally put the documents on-line about Iraq and WMDs. I've been so busy I haven't had a chance to look for them or read them. And, now the government has closed the web-site down. Typical. Back in 2002 when I had lunch with Paul (no last name used on-line) who was part of Scott Ritter's UN inspection team; he told me all about what they really found over there in Iraq. He stated that Hussein had almost made a nuclear device except for the enriched Plutonium. And, that they couldn't find the chemicals and felt that Iraq had most likely buried them in the desert or sold them to one of it's allies. |
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